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Butt Plugs for Beginners

plugs groupSo you wanna try out a butt plug, huh?  Well, I don’t blame you! Butt plugs can be a pretty incredible experience.  Keep in mind, however, that anal play is not something you can just dive into with reckless abandon head (or fist!) first.  Not if you want to have a safe & pleasant experience, anyway.

Before you take a…..er…crack at it, you’ll first need a little bit of knowledge and skill.

Why On Earth Would Someone Want a Plug in Their Butt?

When I first heard the word “butt plug”, I wasn’t sure whether to laugh or run off screaming into the night. I just couldn’t imagine why anyone would ever want to put a plug up their butt.  My mind reeled with questions: Doesn’t it hurt?  Isn’t it dangerous? What about poo?!

But, sooner or later, my curiosity always gets the best of me. And you know what? I’m really glad it did.  I could never have imagined what it would be like until I actually tried it. First of all, WOW did it make my orgasms more intense! What surprised me even more was how good it felt to just wear my plug around the house.  The closest description I can think of? Like having a little massage therapist in my anus.

How to Choose Your First Butt plug

If you’re like me, you’ve got a wishlist full of some pretty impressive plugs you’d like to try.  Tails, maybe? Sparkly jewels?  Texture? Big & impressive plugs?

You might not like to hear it, but want my advice?  Start small, simple, & smooth.  The anus needs a gentle touch.  You don’t want to go after it with a battering ram!  My first plug was the Tantus Perfect Plug, and I highly recommend it.

Once you’ve had a little experience, you can gradually try larger plugs. You may also want to look into vibrating plugs, or (for men) curved plugs designed especially for the prostate.

WARNING!:  Make sure your plug has a flared base. The sphincter muscles are really strong & can pull toys completely into the body.  Save yourself a trip to the emergency room & check the base before you buy!

Advice for Your First Time: How to Use a Butt Plug

You have your plug, now you’re ready to start!  Where do you begin?

Here’s my advice:

  • Lube up. Use what you think is plenty of lube & then add some more for good measure. The anus is not designed to self-lubricate the way a vagina is.  The tissue is delicate, and dryness will be painful & may even cause small tears. Also, you will need to remember to lube your plug up again after you’ve had it in for a couple of hours.
  • Warm up first. Massage all around the outside of the anus with gentle strokes. Take your time & breathe.
  •  Go slow.  Insert the plug gradually.  Work just the tip in for a minute or two & pause before you go deeper. There are two anal sphincter muscles.  The outer muscle is voluntary & you can consciously try to relax it.  The inner sphincter muscle is involuntary, so you will have to go very slowly & allow your body to lead the way. Here is your rule of thumb: if it hurts, stop!  Ease off until it feels good again.  Anal play should never hurt.
  • Follow your body’s lead.  As you work the plug in deeper, angle it toward your belly button.  This works with the natural curves of your rectum.  If you feel poking, back off & change the angle a bit.  When you get it right, you’ll know.
  • Enjoy! Once the plug is in, try walking around.   The movements of your body will wiggle the plug around & it will feel great!  At first, only leave the plug in for 20-30 minutes.  You can work your way up to keeping the plug in for many hours once you get used to it.
  • Removing the plug.  Keep in mind that you may have to go as slowly puling the plug back out as you did when you were putting it in.  Try this tip I learned from my good friend & anal aficionado, Ray at Unchaste Ray: Instead of pulling the plug out, bear down with your muscles and slowly push the plug out.

And…the burning question I know you have:  what about poo?  The good news is that there should be very little.  Your rectum is more like a chute for waste to travel through.  Feces is stored further up in the colon.  If you have had a bowel movement that morning or before you put in the plug, you are unlikely to come in contact with any of the brown stuff.  Once in awhile you might encounter a little bit, so keep your sense of humor & work on growing your comfort level with your body.  If you’re really nervous, you can always do an anal douche first.  (Just FYI, an anal douche is a quick rinse, while an enema is a deep clean.  You don’t need to go the full enema route every time.  A quick douche will do just fine).

After you wear your plug a few times, you will discover that it becomes easier to get in & out.  You may want to try a *slightly!* larger plug, or experiment with other anal play.  If you try a larger size, remember: Always go slow!

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